Inside: Learn six ways to tell your loved ones to stop buying you (or your kids) more stuff. Consider alternate ways to give this year.
When you think about celebrating holidays and birthdays, what comes to mind? For most, the act of giving or receiving gifts plays a big role in the way that we celebrate milestones and memorable moments… but what if you don’t want all of that stuff?
While the generosity of loved ones is always appreciated, more physical stuff taking up space in your home may not be so well-received. Excess items can be overwhelming, cluttering up our homes and creating unnecessary stress.
It’s a sentiment that many of us share – especially those of us with children who don’t necessarily need piles of toys and clothes from well-meaning relatives.
But how do we ask our loved ones to stop with the gifts or opt for meaningful alternatives?
It might seem like a difficult conversation to have, but it is possible – and well worth the effort. If you’re looking for ways to encourage family and friends to reconsider how they give, here are a few thoughtful ways you can do it without diminishing the generous spirit of the gesture.
6 Ways to Tell Your Loved Ones to Stop Buying You More Stuff
Holiday gift-giving can create additional stress. When you’re trying to avoid debt during the holiday season and prevent clutter from piling up in your home, it’s important to figure out ways to tell your loved ones to stop buying you more stuff.
Use these six tips to help your family members give better gifts this year to align with your goals and values.
1 – Have a heart-to-heart conversation.
As uncomfortable as it might be, an honest conversation about expectations around the holidays is the best way to curb over-the-top gift-giving from your loved ones.
Pick up the phone or plan to get together for lunch and bring up the topic – ideally, well in advance of any upcoming opportunities to give gifts.
Explain that there are things you and your family find more meaningful than physical presents – like quality time spent together, shared experiences, or even donations to charities to support those who are in need.
By explaining why “less is more,” you can share your perspective in a neutral way that is more likely to be well-received.
2 – Create a wishlist of experiences.
For those who consider gift-giving a love language, telling them you don’t actually want any more physical stuff might come as a shock.
Once that initial surprise wears off, they might realize they don’t know what to give other than toys, clothes, books, or other traditional gifts.
Creating and sharing a wishlist of acceptable gifts is an easy way to give them some examples of things you and your family would appreciate receiving.
For inspiration, consider experience gifts like a trip to the zoo, a membership to a favorite museum, a day at the beach, a relaxing massage, or a stop at a local ice cream shop for a sundae.
Looking for more ideas? You can find a list of 100 ideas for tween experience gift ideas here.
Depending on your family’s typical gift-giving budget, you can go even bigger by offering funds toward a trip to a theme park or a vacation to a nearby destination.
You can even set this up as an editable list, a shared note on an app that everyone can access, so you can easily make updates and changes as interests, ages, and priorities shift.
3 – Request consumable gifts to minimize long-term storage.
For those who really want to give physical gifts, a great option is consumable gifts – things that will be used up over time and won’t become permanent fixtures in your home.
When you think about it, there are a variety of clutter-free gift ideas that are consumable.
Anything you can eat or drink falls into this category – a fun snack box subscription service, a bag of coffee beans from a specialty roaster, a curated collection of teas, cookies from a local specialty bakery, or some indulgent chocolates are great examples of meaningful gifts that won’t clutter up your home.
And if you’re looking for non-food items? Things like toiletry items, bath products, or plants can be great alternatives to typical presents.
Unwanted gifts can happen during the holiday season, but consumable gifts are a great alternative option.
4 – Start a gift-free tradition to enjoy together.
Retail sales for the 2023 holiday season grew 3.8% over 2022 to a record $964.4 billion (source). In many cases, the gifts people receive aren’t even the ones they want.
For a fun and memorable way to swap gift-giving for something else, consider starting a special holiday tradition that doesn’t involve gifts.
Look at the activities you love to enjoy together for inspiration. You could…
- Go on a family hike
- Plan an annual picnic at your favorite park
- Volunteer together at a local charity
- Host a potluck or a cookie decorating party
- Do a family photoshoot
- Have a family game day
- Enjoy a snow play day
Keeping your home decluttered requires developing new habits and behaviors. By opting out of traditional gift-giving with the family and choosing to enjoy an experience together instead, you’ll create memories that last a lifetime.
5 – Opt for a swap to minimize gifts.
While this option doesn’t get rid of the idea of buying gifts completely, it does significantly minimize how many gifts are purchased during the holidays.
Opting to do a gift exchange rather than having everyone buy gifts for each other significantly reduces time spent shopping, money, and potential clutter.
There are a few ways you can go about this. One is doing a Secret Santa where each family member is assigned a different person to buy a gift for.
Another option is doing a gift exchange where each person brings a gift to participate in a swap. Choose the rules you’re going to use in advance (Dirty Santa is a popular option).
You can opt to have both a swap for the adults as well as a separate one for the kids should you so choose. Due to the variety of ages of kids in our family, we opt to do #4 and enjoy an experience with the kids and just the adults do the gift exchange.
Shopping for a large list of people can create more stress during the holiday season. However, creating a spending limit and looking for just one gift makes it much simpler.
6 – Trade gift giving for charitable giving.
Instead of physical presents, another great alternative is suggesting that loved ones donate to a charity on your behalf. Do some research and choose a cause that is meaningful to you and your family.
Then, make a tradition of donating to that organization year after year so you can watch your impact grow.
Explain that it feels much more fulfilling to know that someone in need is being positively impacted, or a cause you’re truly passionate about is getting much-needed support than it is to unwrap endless presents.
If you’re fortunate enough to have everything you need, donating to those who are less fortunate is a great way to spread generosity and celebrate the spirit of gift-giving. It’s also a great example to our kids as we show them how to be grateful for what they already have and to share joy with others this holiday season.
Have you ever tried to tell your loved ones to stop buying you more stuff? Were you able to convince them? Leave a comment and let me know what worked for you!
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